Does anyone else dislike small talk and surface level conversations??!?
If so, I feel you. Sometimes it feels like the “how are you’s” aren’t genuine, and the “networking” isn’t real enough. Here are my thoughts on why it’s important to make deeper connections, and how to do it.
Why I think this is important:
I believe that having deeper conversations with people, allows you to get to know that person better than the alternative surface level conversations. You can more quickly understand if there is a true connection between you, or if there is some way you can mutually help each other out, or benefit from having one another in your life. It’s important also, because so many of us are so busy with our lives, and have our heads buried in our phones, we need these precious moments of real and true connections. Asking someone probing questions like “no, really how ARE you?” , not just looking for a “fine”, can help someone more than you know. Digging dipper can allow you to find opportunities to collaborate, or ever find your next workout/brunch buddy. I always find that people I can develop strong relationships with, prove to be able to help me in BIG ways down the line. People are more likely to be willing to help you if they feel you actually care about what they are doing and who they are as a person.
How to do it:
In my opinion, in order to make deeper connections, we can follow these simple ideas:
First off, we need to stop portraying ourselves as perfect, because no one is. Being honest about our “flaws” make people more comfortable to be around you.
Keep putting yourself out there. Find new ways to meet new people, and practice! PLUG Try Bumble BFF/Bizz
Join awesome FB groups (ex. our “Amazed and Confused community” hint hint). People often post about what they are up to, and you can comment and join in!
Find your own community ex. If you’re into art, look into different clubs or groups you can join in on. Facebook is an amazing place to search for these!
Once you’ve found someone to meet up with, it’s time for the connection part! The best thing you can do here is ask amazing questions! Be genuine and LISTEN. Use your body language to show you are interested in what they have to say. If they say something that interests you, let them know, or if they say something like “I love my Sunday yoga class”, maybe that’s a chance for you to join in, and carry on the connection further.
Try building a tribe. Maybe you’ve meet a couple awesome people online, or at events. Bring them together for a “Tribe Meetup”. This isn’t just a normal coffee date- it’s a chance to have a structured conversation on your goals and how your tribe can help you. I got this idea from Lori Harder’s “A Tribe Called Bliss”.
EVENTS EVENTS EVENTS! There are tons of free ones out there- try to break the walls of your comfort zone and try something new! Ps. We have an event coming up on March 26th, all about mentorship! You’ll be bound to meet someone cool there. Click here to register :D
Why it’s important to support your friends
Once you’re past the initial connection and you become friends with someone, it’s SO important you support them if you are hoping they support you in return. That goes for all your existing friends as well. I believe that if you have a friend trying to start something new, they NEED your support. They need reassurance, your social media likes and shares, and they need YOU to attend this event (or try!) . I’m a firm believer if even if it’s not your thing, it’s important if you try to show an effort in some way, because an hour or two of your time makes a huge difference to your friend- more than you think! <3 Just my two cents!
So, in conclusion, let’s continue to make an effort to make IRL genuine connections that lead to friendships! Having a support system around you makes life that much better :) We hope to see you at an event soon!!
Happy Monday Y’all!