New year's resolutions.
Many of us have a love hate relationship with the idea. It’s so easy to start off January with a bang, and then end up right back where we started.
Going into 2019, I REFUSE to let this happen. I’ll tell you how, but first let’s take a look back at 2018.
January 1st 2018, I wrote out my goals for the new year in my new and awesome Danielle Laporte Desire Map Planner. As usual for me, I had A LOT of goals. A few included:
Take control of my health by adding a journalling and meditation practice
Make the Toronto Argos cheerleading team
Pay off my student loan
Be a better dancer
So did I accomplish these, you ask? Well…
Journalling/ Meditation: I made a huge leap in this area! Wow, did developing this routine ever take longer than I expected. TBH it took most of the year, and it’s still nowhere near perfect. So, this goes to show that we shouldn’t get discouraged if we haven’t perfected a goal by February. Big changes and new habits, take TIME.
Argos Cheerleaders: So this one… I didn’t even try out. And not because I didn’t want to, but because I had a dance show that I had been working toward for months, fall on the same day. It was very disappointing but honestly, I don’t know if I was ready anyways. I started January off great by doing an intro month at fit factory to work on my fitness, but started slowing down come February, as happens so often. Has this ever happened to you?
Debt: I am happy to say that January 30th 2019 will actually be my LAST payment of my student loans. So yes, i missed the official 2018 mark, but basically this was a success!
Dancing: First of all, this goal was too vague. What does it mean? This is an example of a goal that fell off the wagon for sure.
The point is, I don’t think I’m alone here. On January 1st, we all have so much motivation, but it’s nearly impossible to accomplish ALL we want to. But we shouldn’t be discouraged by that fact…
Give this a try:
It’s an interesting practice to look back on the last year. Start with an open mind and heart, and even if you didn’t accomplish everything you’d hoped, take a look at what you DID achieve and all the moments of magic you had last year. For any mistakes or disappointments, acknowledge them, then let them go. Once you are in a place where you’ve released yourself from 2018, then it’s time to get real about 2019.
Here is what I did/will do differently this year:
Understand my WHY.
I’ve realized that when making a goal, I need to do some reflection (perhaps meditation or journalling around it) to understand WHY I want it. In the past, I’ve wanted to do things for other people which makes it harder to remain motivated. Think about your own why, and it will become obvious if your goal is something you are truly committed to.
I’ve learnt that it’s impossible to expect that all the sudden in the new year we’re going to magically complete all of our career, personal, financial and fitness goals. This year, I took a moment to decide what my priority for the year is, and where I am going to spend most of my energy:
An AMAZING way to do this is to take a listen to the RACHEL HOLLIS START TODAY podcast or buy her journal. She has you visualize the most amazing life you can, and then write out 10 goals/intentions, and then pick ONE that you are going to start with.
Made SMAR Goals
This year, I set goals without a time frame. Really, a better word for my “goals” this year is intentions. Of course, different goal setting ideas work for different people. Personally, I’ve found that it is more helpful for me to start with visuals of my life, then decide what my intentions are for this year, that will bring me closer to that visual. Finally, I decide on what my specific, measurable, attainable and realistic action steps are that I need to take to get me closer and closer to what I truly want. I believe we can’t put a time frame on this process.
Positive self talk and affirmations
This year, I’m taking my motivation to the next level. I’ll do what I need to do to make my prioritized intentions happen. I’ll tell myself in the mirror. I’ll write it out a million times. I made a vision board, and put reminders on my phone.
When I write down or say my intentions I will say them as if they have already happened. Ex. “I own a successful online coaching business”. Research shows, this has a powerful psychological effect on us!
These are all new tactics I am trying this year to make sure when I look back on 2019, it was all that I dreamed it would be! If these sound like they would help you stay motivated, I urge you to try them with me!
Don’t forget to first reflect on 2018, the good and the bad, then visualize the life you want, prioritize what you need to do with small and attainable action steps, and then get after it!
2019 is our year. Let’s get it!